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A common thread runs through humanity, whether we practice yoga or not: the experience of self-doubt. This daunting, often daily occurrence more often points to a lack of larger vision than to a lack of innate capacity. In other words, we feel anxious because we don’t have an actual plan for where we’re headed. So we live with this subterranean doubt, which damages our hearts, our minds, our children, our colleagues, our friends and our lovers, and most notably ourselves.

Baseline doubt has infected many of my choices. If I don’t have a super clear aim, for example, to experience peace in the context of my family, or to have strong communication among my employees, I’ll react negatively or falsely when I feel confronted. With a clear aim in front of me, I’ll more likely remember that it’s my responsibility to respond effectively and with kindness. Having this vision or dream for each aspect of my life, I’ve learned that doubt doesn’t need to play a role anymore.

With a clear aim, I’ve learned that I’m always free to choose the environment of my mind.

Creating a specific aim, or a “dream” for every area of my life, seemed at first, to take the fun out of just living my life. And since the DOUBT that I couldn’t change was always at the forefront (rather then the dream for who I wanted to be), I was always scared. And that fear that I’d be as temperamental as my relatives kept the behavior close to me, and for the last few years (as my kid, my Man, my parents and my sister can tell you), I subconsciously adopted that very temper as my very own.

My yoga teachers taught me how to see the doubt, feel the fear, acknowledge the anger, breathe through it and witness it, which worked beautifully—on my mat. One of the luminaries of our time, Richard Rosen, believes that the entire world is moving in the direction of self-realization, and that yoga is a means of helping the universe along toward this goal. Agreed. Yet for me yoga had a finite reach; my behavior wasn’t changing, even though I could see it taking up space in my mind and my reactions.

Then I discovered the Handel Group, a groundbreaking, life-coaching method that has shifted my relationships to myself, my family, and my work in the world. Under the tutelage of my Handel coaches, the precise actions I take toward changing my reactivity are now my option in the most challenging situations—not just on my yoga mat. And now that I know who and how I can be, my yoga mat feels like more of an affirmation of that, rather than the place I go to escape my unsavory and embarrassing behavior.

At the behest of my coaches, I wrote my “dream” down for how I wanted to behave in any context and then I spent weeks researching myself. Every time I experienced doubt, either internally or in my outward behavior, I would note it in a memo on my phone. Specifically writing down the incidents of doubt in the moment still helps me witness damaging behavior as it happens, so that I may design ways to behave otherwise. When I pretend all is well and subjugate my fear, it turns into rage, which causes the worst sort of trouble in my most valued relationships. Pretending I’m not afraid slays all sweetness, and I become angry at myself and everyone nearby, which leads to that familiar sinking feeling: if I’m like this, I’m a fake; I can’t accomplish anything of value; I am worthless in this world. That narcissistic, overly dramatic lack of confidence is felt, by my kid, my parents, my Man, my students.

And it has to disappear from my life, because I don’t want to teach doubt to my students or to my child.

There are 18 areas for which I have “dreams” written (to be super clear, they’re really visions that we set out for ourselves, rather than dreams we have when we sleep). The areas are: Body, Career/School, Money, Relationships, Romance, Sex, Community, Character Traits, Family, Relationship to Time, Relationship to Self, Bad Habits, Home, Personal Space, Learning, Fun + Adventure, Spirituality, Health (physical, mental and emotional). Each dream has its own flavor and direction and is to be written and revised (that is, designed) several times during the year. And I’m designing not just the results I aim to achieve, but my state of being in each of the areas. I’m learning what trust in myself feels like, within each of these areas, without drama or fanfare. Perhaps most importantly, my son is watching me find that self-trust, and is finding his own as well. Here’s my dream for my “Character Traits.”

I am a calm, centered, elegant woman; listening, steady and clear. I trust, respect and love myself. I am deeply connected to my heart and proud of my strength and my softness. My family, friends, students, teachers and employees consistently experience my kindness and attentiveness.

Since writing and refining this dream, when I’m presented with the option of sweetness or thinking/behaving like a judgmental lunatic, I see my elegant options (and choose them more of the time). And as simplistic as this exercise of noting doubt may seem, I’m certain that this is what the yogis meant when they spoke about self-study, or svadhyaya, one of the eight limbs of yoga. If I can witness my mind in postures, I can witness and consciously refine my thinking anywhere. Now whenever I feel like I’m selling myself short in any aspect of my life, I go back and rewrite that area. With the dream as my beacon, rather than unleashing my temper and then turning my bad behavior into an attention grab, I can inhabit my heart and be a calm, centered, elegant woman.

Elena is a Mama, internationally respected yoga teacher and coach in collaboration with the Handel Group. She is the founder and co-owner of Virayoga NYC, and co-author of Art of Attention.

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Many spiritual traditions believe the body and soul are connected to—and even embodied in—the soles of the feet. Devotees around the world touch, wash, or kiss the feet of their teachers as a way of showing love and respect. Vishnu’s footprints are worshipped in temples and holy sites across Asia. And in ancient Egypt, undertakers removed the soles of the deceased during mummification to liberate their souls from the physical plane.

The ancient healing traditions of China, India, and Egypt also recognized that the feet serve as mirrors for our overall wellbeing. Today, the American Podiatric Medical Association echoes this wisdom, stating “Such conditions as arthritis, diabetes, nerve, and circulatory disorders can show their initial symptoms in the feet—so foot ailments can be your first sign of more serious medical problems.”

Whether you have collapsed arches or simply feel sore and tired at the end of a long day, try setting aside five minutes for ayurvedic foot massage, which not only alleviates stress and fatigue, but activates the immune system, eases emotional imbalance, and balances all three doshas. By nurturing and connecting with your soles, you set a foundation for vibrant health of mind, body and soul.

Want More? Check out additional recommendations in the fall issue of Yoga International.

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Want an alternative to the allergies, excess mucus, and communicable viruses usually associated with the upcoming holiday season? Take these traditional insights to heart.

Seasonal vata imbalance causes or aggravates many short-term illnesses. Literally translated as “wind,” the subtle energy Ayurvedic physicians call vata is dry, so to balance that, nurture yourself with warm, heated oils. Dosha-specific oil,commonly used for self-massage, soothes inflamed nasal passages. Warm castor oil or ghee can moisten dry eyes; use an eye cup or eye-dropper from your local pharmacy to bathe them.

Other useful tips: give yourself a lymph massage or dry brush to move lymphatic fluid and boost your immunity. Herbal infusions can help relieve colds and allergies. And don’t forget to use your neti pot!

Photo via (cc) Flickr user Kate Reiser  

It’s breast cancer awareness month—and the pink ribbons are out in full force. We’ve walked, run, blogged, and gathered in groups large and small to raise money to eradicate this disease that still appears to grab one in eight women every year. While researchers can’t agree on the cause or the cure, they do agree that certain lifestyle changes can quite possibly keep this disease at bay. Here are five things you can do right away—including yoga, of course—to reduce your risk not only for breast cancer but as it turns out, for most diseases.

1. Clean up your diet. Choose plant-based, fiber-rich foods. Minimize (or give up) red meat and dairy products.
2. Get plenty of sleep. Resist that second wind and try going to bed by 10pm to get the most beneficial shut-eye. That’s what ayurvedic practitioners recommend. Disrupted sleep patterns (including working the night shift; waking up at odd hours of the night) may actually increase breast cancer risk.
3. Exercise. Stay active to keep your weight and stress-levels in check. According to Susan Love, MD, author of The Breast Book, says the more you exercise, the greater the benefit. Go for a brisk walk, ride your bike, do something aerobic for 30 minutes a day, at least 4 times a week.
4. Do yoga. A consistent yoga practice can balance your nervous system, improve your circadian rhythms (our sleep/wake cycle), and reduce inflammation in the body, which plays a critical role in the disease.
5. Take your supplements. Sara Gottfried, MD, shares a list of vitamins and supplements that are essential for preventing breast cancer.

AWAKENING AS WOMEN reminder
Join in on Thursday, October 18 (4pm PST; 7pm EST) for “Getting Real: Conversations with Yoginis” as editor-in-chief Linda Sparrowe discusses body image and aging — does yoga help or hinder our ability to honor our bodies as we age?

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The first time you visit the Omega Institute in upstate New York, you might notice a sign on the former youth camp’s pathways asking you to turn off your cell phone. An orientation video for weekend guests makes the same recommendation, and to really nail the message, there is even an animation that shows how to remove an earbud from your ear.

When I saw that, I shamelessly snickered. The New Yorker next to me, and several others throughout the hall, did too.

No matter how pervasively the media covers the dangers of staying plugged in, a big part of me refuses to listen. Even at a retreat center in the Catskill Mountains. For my job and my own sense of mind, I want to be connected. I need it. I love it.

I can’t give it up even after reading studies that describe how technology addiction can cause depression and increase levels of anxiety. I mean, what if you miss a call? Or a significant email? Not to mention all the health problems that come with lack of sleep because you just have to stay up later and later into the night scanning the web.

Simple practices from yoga can teach us to chill out around technology and tune back into our fear-free intuition. But yoga can also help us better appreciate everything that being so technologically connected brings us—with enthusiasm and curiosity rather than anxiety and guilty attachment.

So what practices are we talking about?

A pratyahara practice. This guided relaxation practice helps us get in touch with our buddhi—our innate intelligence. If that sounds overly abstract, try answering these quick questions from yoga teacher Sandy Anderson:

1. Can you feel your sit bones on the chair?

2. Do you hear sounds in the room?

3. Do you hear sounds outside the room?

4. What do you see in your peripheral vision?

“Most likely,” Anderson notes, “you are not aware of any of these things until your buddhi calls your attention to them—even though they stream continuously into your mind.”

A practice like pratyahara can not only help us move our awareness inward, but can also mentally and emotionally recharge us after the countless hours we’ve spent paying attention to every micro development in our external environment. Listen a guided audio practice from Anderson here. 

An unconventionally short yoga nidra practice. If you’re short on time or even patience, this method from Swami Rama—it takes just a couple minutes. You could practice it in a bathroom stall, in the driver’s seat of your car (parked, I might add) or even just with your back to the wall of your office.

According to Rolf Sovik, this practice will allow you to rest while remaining alert—almost as if you were awake and napping at the same time. Learn this abbreviated version—or get the full practice here—for anytime you need to rest, renew, and in this case, unplug.

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I invite you to join me and Awakening as Women co-founders Anne Cushman and Janice Gates in a series of live, interactive conversations with some of the world’s most wonderful women yoga and meditation teachers! Eleven pioneering yoginis will talk from their own life experience about some of the hot-button issues that matter most to women–including relationships, money, creativity, body image, and changing the world. Call in with your comments and questions as we share our own personal strategies for transformation. This is an opportunity to become part of a world-wide conversation and community of women on the path of awakening. In addition to my talk on body image, you’ll hear wisdom from Leslie Booker, Mariana Caplan, Nischala Devi, Angela Farmer, Konda Mason, Sarah Powers, and Jill Satterfield.

Click here for more information or to register—it’s free!

There will be five one-hour interactive tele-conversations across 10 days in October. You can participate online and by phone, and all conversations will be recorded in case you miss a couple. Just enter your email to get the dates and times and more information about how to join.

Want more? You can also check out my feature on body image before the event. Looking forward to having you as part of the conversation!

If you’re sweating it out in an asana class, find yourself in the midst of a heated argument, or have an impossible deadline you’re struggling to make, a concept like lila (Sanskrit for “play”) is probably the last thing on your mind. Lila, often defined as the ability to joyfully embrace life, is according to Acroyoga founder Jenny Sauer-Klein, “our natural state of being” and yet, she notes, “it’s a choice we have to make every day, on our yoga mat, at home, or at work.”

I recently met Circus yoga teacher Kelly Curtis, and talked to her about how the playfulness of yoga styles like Acroyoga and Circus yoga can teach any of us, to lighten up and not take ourselves so seriously.

 What makes a circus yoga class unique?
Circus yoga classes have a lot of the same elements as Acroyoga—yoga poses, flying partner yoga, thai massage—but in a different way. There’s a lot of play and co-creation and collaboration. Those are the underlying principles—multiple people working together in multi-generational groups.

We also play a lot of games, do juggling, poi, and tightrope walking.

Do you think activities like that really promote creativity, for kids and adults?
Definitely. Some of the activities that we do ask you to literally create new things in a short amount of time. We set up the environment in such a way that it just seems like a perfect garden for creativity, for things to blossom out of no matter what.

What are some skills someone could develop using Circus yoga?
Trust is huge. We do a lot of things that are scary—not just up-in-the-air scary, but scary because you have to get up in front of everyone else and show them things that you just came up with.

When you’re flying, in flying partner yoga, you have to trust the person who is facing you. For some people that’s scary—some people cry. It tends to bring up any insecurities you have.

Circus yoga gives you an outlet. I think there’s a lot of therapy that happens.

Wow. Can you give me another example?
We play this game called the “Yes” game. The idea behind it is that we all say “Yes” to everyone’s ideas by literally shouting YES at the top of our lungs.

Somebody comes up with an idea like, “Let’s ride our bikes downhill” and then everyone has to go “YES! Let’s ride our bikes downhill!” and then everybody pretends to ride a bike downhill.

It’s kind of a cool way to get people to say yes to things.

Has anyone ever asked you what makes a class with juggling, tightrope walking, and games like the “Yes” game actually yoga?
One of the common definitions that Erin, who is a founder of Circus yoga, has given is that we are bringing the consciousness of yoga and the creative celebration [of circus arts] together.

It’s not like while juggling you’re doing yoga at the same time, but there’s an aspect of concentration that yoga embodies, [dharana], that is also there when you’re juggling. The moment your mind wanders while you’re juggling, you’re going to drop a ball or a club.

We also do practice yoga within the circus yoga workshop—actual yoga poses and partner yoga and flying partner yoga.

What effect, if any, has teaching circus yoga had on the way you teach traditional forms of yoga?
Circus yoga has helped me personally see [hatha yoga] in a slightly different way. It has given me more freedom.

I come from such a serious yoga background and it’s hard to break free from that, especially when you only have 50 minutes with people, which is what I have most of the time. [But] I now tend to be funnier when I’m teaching my yoga classes. Getting people to just laugh and open up—”this pose is the windmill pose, also known as the wind relieving pose—hahaha”

Has it also affected your life, in any way, off the mat?
Yes. I think it’s helped me in a lot of ways to think about how I communicate with people in relationships. That can be a challenging thing sometimes (laughs).

How can a teacher apply circus yoga to their teaching style?
Try to add in some fun. Keep it light. There’s so much depth to yoga, but you can still keep it light, so the students can understand it and they’re not taking it too seriously.

—It’s not a bad thing to take your practice seriously. But it depends on how seriously you take it and how that’s affecting you.

No kidding. Any other tips?
Practice lion pose before you teach—practice it a couple times. It can help you express yourself more clearly.

I’d also recommend that teachers try sharing their personal experiences—I think that relating something you’ve experienced to whatever you’re teaching is something that people appreciate.

What about advice for beginners—what would you tell someone before their first class?
Explore yoga with creativity and an open mind. We have a little song in Circus yoga that goes, “you can’t get it wrong, you can’t get it wrong…” There is no exact right or wrong. [A pose] doesn’t have to be perfect in any way, so we say that practice is perfect in Circus yoga, instead of saying that practice makes perfect.

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